A friend recently wrote on her blog about not judging people and giving them the benefit of the doubt, hopefully she doesn't mind if I use this idea for this weeks Wednesday Confession.
An example of not judging someone is to not judge those that don't realize their pregnant until they are 16 weeks along and their dr. says they should do a pregnancy test before blood work to figure out why she's "irregular." Don't judge the girl that hasn't felt pregnant for four months and then after the confirmation and the ultrasound starts to realize oh, so the lack of crunches isn't the reason for my larger belly, or that's why my back is sore or why I'm so tired in the evening. She might have seriously thought that 4 kids, stress of running a business with her husband, and allergy season hitting were the reasons for all her ailments. Instead do as a few friends have done for this girl and comment on how skinny she looks, 3 friends to be exact and one ultrasound tech that couldn't believe the girl was that far along, because that makes her feel real good, especially after realizing her belly seems to be growing quickly now that she has realized it is a good thing to have a belly so the little guy can move around in there. Also go ahead and laugh because we have been doing a ton of that and counting our blessings.
So ladies (and men?) did you ever judge someone and maybe say something foolish as a result? And were you able to somehow recover?
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I can't count how many times I have thought various women didn't like me, because they weren't friendly to me. Then I rack my brains for what I could have done to offend them, and try to avoid them. Then, eventually, I get to know them a little better (somehow the Visiting Teaching coordinators at church know exactly who I'm avoiding), and I discover a lovely person who actually has nothing against me.
You'd think I'd learn.
Actually, one time I was right, but it was because of a breakdown in communication from a third party.
For the record, there's no way to recover when you assume a guy is a girl, and call him one, in front of all his co-workers.
Or when you ask a woman when she's due and she's not pregnant or even married.
Also goes for asking what temple a couple got married in and then they tell you they didn't.
Or where a guy went on his mission, and he didn't. Really, it has no effect on my opinion of him . . . just makes me feel like a jerk, and probably makes him a little uncomfortable as well.
Yeah. Awkward!
I just had this happen to me. A lady was talking about having to replace a door in her house and I was telling her how we had rehung ours and that we had the tools she could borrow. Another lady asked why we replaced our doors and I told her we just upgraded the yucky brown builder doors and she said "you mean like those?" and pointed to the doors of the lady's house we were at. I said, "umm, yeah." Luckily the lady that lives there was out of the room but I still felt bad I had said that.
There's a girl who works for me who was responsible for a tragic house fire several years ago that killed one of her children.
I knew this, and yet when she complained that her kids never clean their rooms, I cracked a joke about how she should threaten to burn the house down.
As it was coming out of my mouth, I realized what I was saying. Lucky for me, she has a great sense of humor and we laughed it off, BUT STILL. UGH.
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